Choosing imperfect harmony over perfect balance

Choosing imperfect harmony over perfect balance

Last week, I looked back at my client intake forms for the past six months, and I tallied up the words my clients use when they describe the changes they want in their lives.

The two words they used most were “clarity” and “balance.”

While I love the word clarity, I struggle with the word balance. It conjures an image in my mind of a superhuman holding two equal weights, perfectly balanced in their arms. True balance is elusive. We are perfectly imperfect human creatures, and we will always be imperfectly balanced.

I prefer the image of dancer gracefully moving along the spectrum of response or between two ends of a polarity.

Instead of balance, I encourage you to play with the word “harmony.”

Try this out: Say the word “balance” out loud, and notice how you feel in your body. Then, say the word “harmony” out loud, and again, pay attention to how you feel. You may not notice any difference. But, if you’re like me, you’ll feel a subtle shift. A more fluid energy, like music that can be sometimes fast and sometimes slow.

Rather than finding the one perfectly balanced point, you can find harmony at any point along the spectrum. It depends on what life is calling forth in you at any moment. It’s like surfing the waves, rather than looking for still water.

I recently asked my Facebook community what words they use to describe the sensation of balance, and in addition to harmony, their answers included centered, resilient, awake, responsive, and integrated.

I’d love to hear your thoughts— What other words might you use to depict the concept of balance or harmony? What images come to your mind when you think of balance and harmony?

And, as always, if you have a friend who you think would benefit from more balance or harmony in their life, please go ahead and share this article with them. Thank you!

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